4 month old cries and cries for no reason? Maybe he’s already teething.

4 month old cries and cries for no reason? Maybe he’s already teething.

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Between month 3 and month 12, Babies start teething: their teeth start coming through their gums. This results in lots of pain and sleepless nights.

This is noteworthy because, if at about 4 months of age, Baby (who is otherwise really calm) starts crying and crying for no reason — this is likely the cause.

There are some signs that the cause of the crying might be teething. These include:

  • Crying and crying during times he rarely does, and the usual methods to calm him down just don’t work.
  • Baby just won’t take his hand (or something in his hand) out of his mouth
  • Baby is biting or gnawing at everything. Well, trying to bite, even if he doesn’t have teeth yet, definitionally.
  • Baby can’t fall asleep: he’s in so much pain, he won’t fall asleep
  • Baby eats less than usual. The sucking can cause more pain, so he just sucks less — even though he’s still hungry.
Pattern: Baby sleeps better when you put him to bed at the very first sign of sleepiness

Pattern: Baby sleeps better when you put him to bed at the very first sign of sleepiness

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This was probably the most important piece of advice I got, in terms of helping me put my Baby to sleep:

Put Baby to sleep at the VERY FIRST SIGN that he might be tired.

Most parents don’t recognize the signs that their Baby is tired — and thus they keep playing with him, until he is overtired. But when he’s overtired — that’s when he starts crying at the top of his lungs and becomes miserable and seemingly almost impossible to put to sleep!

So what are the signs that he’s starting to get tired?

  • Rubbing his eyes — this is one of the most important and common (and least obvious) signs
  • Can’t focus on anything
  • Moving his arms and legs a lot, in a jerky way
  • Tightening his fists

If you start seeing these signs… begin the bedtime routine.

Pattern: Baby Lifting Legs Up Suggests He Has Gas

Pattern: Baby Lifting Legs Up Suggests He Has Gas

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Does Baby constantly lift his feet up? Even when he’s laying down, calm and happy and smiling, but instead of laying his feet directly on the ground, he just seems to enjoy dangling them up?

This could be because he has gas. Babies often lift their feet up because their gastro-intestinal system is working overtime, and lifting the feet up makes them feel more comfortable.

Of course, this is just a pattern, so it could just be that your Baby happens to enjoy that position.

Patterns: Tight Fist = Not Soundly Asleep Yet

Patterns: Tight Fist = Not Soundly Asleep Yet

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Classic problem: Baby falls asleep in Mom’s arms. She then puts him into his crib — and that moment he wakes up. The reason is, Baby was put into the crib too early: he was asleep, but not yet in a deep sleep.

The solution is easy: only put him into the crib when he’s in a deep sleep. But how do you know when that happens, without waiting all night long?

Here’s a pattern that can help. Babies often fall asleep with a clenched fist. And when they’re in a deep sleep, the fist loosens and expands. So just see how tight his fist is.

Easy!

Pattern: High-contrast patterns for newborns stimulates visual growth

Pattern: High-contrast patterns for newborns stimulates visual growth

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Newborn babies can’t see far and can’t see much color.

How, then, do you stimulate them visually — to encourage their visual growth (which, at this point in their lives, is deeply connected to their physical growth)?

Easy: show them black-and-white high contrast patterns. If you don’t have any, there are tons to download online, or even some to buy. Some coming here soon :)

At about 3 or 4 months, they start being able to see depths and colors — and at that point, colors stimulate them more.

Pattern: 4 Month Sleep Regression

Pattern: 4 Month Sleep Regression

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Were the first few weeks of Baby’s life full of constant crying? Then you eventually trained him how to sleep, and he was being sleepy and perfect and wonderful (and you could sleep for the entire night) for months? And then… he just stops sleeping one day. When he’s about to turn 4 months old.

Did this happen to you?

It happened to me–when Baby was 3.5 months old. Exactly on schedule.

Well, Baby is suffering from a common issue: the “4 Month Sleep Regression.” Basically, at 4 months, babies go through a massive growth spurt, and they’re so into the world around them, that they’re perceiving and trying to interpret everything and it’s so stimulating that they just stop being able to sleep.

The good news: it usually lasts 2-6 weeks, or so they say.

The bad news: during these 2-6 weeks, there’s not much you can do about it, other than doubling down on all your efforts.

Sorry about that folks–wish the news were better!

Be Prepared for Mom’s Post-Partum Hair Loss

Be Prepared for Mom’s Post-Partum Hair Loss

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Are you starting to see Mom’s hair all over the apartment? Well, if Baby was born about 3 months ago, then no fear: this is normal. And, most importantly, it will grow back!

This pattern is called “post-partum hair loss” and doesn’t happen in all women, but is more common than not.

The key point to remember is: the changes in Mom’s body during pregnancy lead to her growing more, stronger hair. About 3 months after birth, these hormones start calming down and returning to normal. So the extra hair stars falling away. But in no time, she’ll be back to her regular hair.

Breast-Fed Babies Tend to Gain Weight Slower than Bottle-Fed Babies

Breast-Fed Babies Tend to Gain Weight Slower than Bottle-Fed Babies

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Is Baby in the normal weight ranges, but a bit towards the lower side?

Isn’t that surprising: you’re big yourself, and you’ve been feeding him so healthy (in particular, mom breast feeds him all the time, and she eats super healthy)! Why is he so small?

One pattern that might explain it:

Bottle-fed babies tend to be substantially fatter than breast-fed babies.

Therefore, if you’re breast-feeding, don’t worry if the numbers are slightly lower than you would have thought.

Two qualifications:

First, breast feeding babies is substantially healthier, plus avoids lots of chemicals for the babies. So the good far outweighs the bad.

Secondly, our lawyers (if we had them!) would insist we add that if you feel worried or anything seems wrong, to go see your Doctor!

The Disappearance of the Moro Reflex: What Age?

The Disappearance of the Moro Reflex: What Age?

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The science says…

The Moro Reflex (the “startle” reflex where he just moves his hands randomly) usually starts disappearing by the third month; and if it’s not gone by the fourth or fifth month, then the baby should take a neurological exam.

Details: Lehman RK, Schor NF. Neurologic Evaluation. In: Kliegman RM,Behrman RE, Jenson HB, Stanton BF, eds.Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics.19th ed. Philadelphia, Pa: Saunders Elsevier; 2011:chap 584.